Here’s the Top 10 of my favorite reality show villains…
I’m not into reality TV as much as I used to be, but I thought it would be fun to make a list of some of my favorite reality show villains.
1. You are beautiful
Beauty comes in so many different shades and colors. The media and advertising often exposes young black girls to one definition of beauty. Every black girl should be taught they they are beautiful. This is not only important for her self esteem, but for acceptance of herself and culture.
2. You are heard
Black women and girls are often, directly or indirectly, told their opinions don’t matter as much as their male counterparts. When women often voice their opinions in a matter, they are hushed or made to feel inferior. Young black girls need to be told their opinion matters and they can express themselves. They can be as loud and as assertive as they want to be. If somebody is intimidated, fuck them.
3. You can be ANYTHING you want to be
Women can really do and be anything they want to be. The earlier girls know this, the better. We often limit our girls by exposing them to limited career choices. Showing them that they CAN be doctors, lawyers, bodybuilders, construction workers or whatever they desire early on will benefit them as they grow older and start making career choices. Although being Instagram models and using your beauty as a career is fine, young girls need to know using other tools in your chest like your brain may be more rewarding and get you a bit further in the long run.
4. YOU come FIRST
Black women have often had to make some of the bigger sacrifices in the black community. They’ve had to hold down the household while men were allowed to do whatever they wanted. It is often in the nature of a woman to put her needs aside for the greater good, but it shouldn’t be at the expense of a mans ego or selfish choices. Black girls should know that THEY come first, before family, friends or boyfriend/girlfriend, at least until you have children. Every girl should know her mental, physical, financial and emotional state ALWAYS comes first.
4. Having a man should NOT be a priority
I’ve told my niece this over and over again. You DO NOT need a man to be happy and successful. Love is a beautiful thing, however, men come and go but a degree is forever. Michelle already had her law degree and was a junior lawyer at her law firm when she met Barack. It’s human for us to desire love, but get your OWN first. I’ve seen so many women, especially women of color go through hell and high water to say they have a man. They would stunt their growth and make sacrifices for temporary relationships. That’s five years you could have many going to school, making money and establishing yourself. Im not saying don’t be in a relationship, but establishing yourself first should be of the most importance. If you do find love in the process of getting your own, that’s great. If not, that’s great too.
5. You are POWERFUL
If women knew their own power, their would be no wars, no strife, and men would be a footnote in history. Some women don’t know their power which is often distressing. Black women birth human civilization, but have never been given due credit. Black women are Kings and Queens, warriors and mothers, fighters and lovers aka complex human beings. Black culture begins and ends with black women. A Black culture that influences the world. That is power. Every young black girl needs to be told this.